Back in the Land of the Eating
So yesterday was the last day of The Fast, I drank yummy fresh squeezed orange juice and ate a tangy, sweet, juicy kiwi fruit. The flavors are hitting the tip of my tongue with full force, I love it. My wonderful neighbor and I made a pot of homemade vegetable soup last night, yes you're reading the right blog, I just want to be good to my body. The soup turned out absolutely delicious, I get to get some for dinner tonight. I was so excited while making the soup, I was talking to the vegetables. When I put the soup in the container for the fridge, I leaned in and whispered "Good night sweet prince". I was giddy over soup. Little things amuse little minds my friends.

That F***ing Disclaimer
My saucy friend from Santa Cruz came to stay with me on Saturday. She was recently dumped by a guy she had been seeing for a few months. When they first met he made the infamous remark "I'm not looking for anything serious". She took note, and the 'getting to know' you began. After 3 months of hanging out about 4 times a week, having sex, going camping at Joshua Tree, countless tender moments, many romantic gestures, and meeting his mother, my friend pretty much forgot the dooming comment, and felt confident that her feelings were reciprocated. Now my friend is an amazing, amazing woman. She's independent, going to school to be a nurse (how noble), has no emotional baggage, is communicative, super funny, down right sexy, and knows what she wants. She put herself out there and told him she'd like things to go to the next level and wanted to know his thoughts. He matter of factly reminded her that he told her in the beginning he didn't want anything serious, began ignoring her, and eventually just stopped making any kind of contact. This infuriates me. How someone can tell you when they first meet you that over time they're still not going to want anything more is beyond me. Do they have a crystal ball? I don't blame people for eventually losing interest. I'm not saying that I don't understand how after months of hanging out, someone could decide that they don't want it to go further, but couldn't a default statement in the beginning be "Whatever will be will be"? Couldn't we just agree from the get go that we'll see how things go? It's like people (men as well as women use this copout so don't think this is male bashing), want to hang on to this disclaimer statement, so they set the course of things by making this ridiculous statement. Are people that cowardly, that they can't just admit after a few month that it's just not working out? Sure you don't want to be the bad guy, it's never nice hurting someone's feelings, and it's awkward getting the words out, but do it on the phone if you have to, just don't make someone feel like you're completely enveloped in them, all the while thinking if they approach you about a possible commitment, you've got you're 'get out of a relationship free' card, and they knew better, didn't you read the fine print? I'm not bitter. I go into my relationship interludes with a clean slate. I don't punish anyone for other's mistakes. But I have seen this happen all too often, and it's time we started putting ourselves out there and being honest. I consoled my friend and I hope that she gets some closure from this guy. She'll have no problem finding other men who are interested, but I understand her frustration of feeling like she misread someone. You start to question your own judgement. Well don't doubt yourself my good friend, you just happened along a bad egg. Can't we all just get along?
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My favorite thing today:Raspberries, cantaloupe, and grapes.